That thing! That thing that rears it’s ugly head because you are trying to keep peace. You don’t want to rock the boat or say how you truly feel because you are concerned about the other person. This week I learned that even in these situations you have to choose you. I chose to keep someone around me that continued to say negative things about me covered with friendship. I decided the best course of action was to slowly distance myself. A quiet unfriending of sorts. Well! They crossed a line that sent me to100! Needless to say, it did not end well. I have been quietly pondering why things happen the way they did. I realized this situation hit a nerve of the past. I felt bullied and pushed into a corner. As a child, when these situations would occur, I would cry and wonder what I did wrong. I always wanted people to be my friend even when they were negative towards me. This time, I came out like a lion because I refused to be bullied as a adult. Part of becoming is learning to be honest with people and defining relationships once you identify that they can become toxic. Everyone can’t be your close friend. It is ok to define relationships so that they are healthy for you. For me, this bump in the road helps me to continue to drive home the message of becoming the best you, you can be. This message will truly be one that I use when forming new relationships in the future. Remember, everything in life is a lesson to help us become our best self. These lessons will truly help you to keep BECOMING!
T. Sherrell